Campus Relationships: Advice for Freshers

There’s probably no better place to be in love than on campus. Yes, being in love and in a relationship on campus is fun and exciting. I can remember clearly the thrill back in the day that the prospect of ‘campus love’ brought. No parental controls. You can see him/ her whenever, go to lectures Read more about Campus Relationships: Advice for Freshers[…]

Is it LOVE or LUST?

All young people will at a point ponder on this question- Is what I am feeling love or lust?Having one crush after another comes with confusing feelings. Research has shown that most people get confused between love and lust. The majority don’t know the difference. This is why you find a lot of people engaging in unhealthy relationships thinking they are in love yet they are in lust. The truth is there is a big difference between the two. One survives long term and the other, short term.In defining the two, we would be able to establish the real difference.Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another. It’s a profound and caring attraction that forms an emotional attachment. On the flip side, Lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on a sexual nature and is based on physical attraction. We can also say that Lust is solely based on physical attraction and fantasy—it often dissipates when the  “real person” surfaces. Lust is fueled by idealization and projection. You see what you hope someone will be or need to be rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all—which is love.Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate SIGNS OF LUST… 1. You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and bodies. 2. You’re interested in having sex, but not good conversations. 3. You want to leave soon after sex. 4. You are lovers, but not friends. 5. You’d rather Read more about Is it LOVE or LUST?[…]

When is the right time to start dating?

Nothing generates more interest and controversy among young people than these topics- Relationship, Dating, boyfriend/ girlfriend, beloved/sex. Without dispute, the youthful period is an exciting time laden with a lot of opportunities, exposure, development and important decisions to be made. Most of these decisions can have a permanent impact on one’s life either for good Read more about When is the right time to start dating?[…]