Campus Relationships: Advice for Freshers

There’s probably no better place to be in love than on campus. Yes, being in love and in a relationship on campus is fun and exciting. I can remember clearly the thrill back in the day that the prospect of ‘campus love’ brought.

No parental controls. You can see him/ her whenever, go to lectures together, study together, walk hand in hand and for the more ‘chrife’ brethren, even pray and fast together. I remember course mates whose ‘boyfriends’ will sit by them in lectures sometimes by forsaking their own lectures and the boyfriends who received great benefits of breakfast, lunch, and supper from their girlfriends. Eii love is sweet on tertiary campus.

It’s thrilling but there’s also no worse place to get a broken heart than on campus and the number of hearts broken on tertiary campuses each day are without number. The truth of the matter is that many people enter into relationships on campus without a serious focus. Very few relationships that begin on tertiary campuses actually survive and become a marriage and these are usually those guided by boundaries and principles.


So one word of caution to all freshers out there: HOLD ON TO YOUR INTEGRITY.

  • Time and time again, you come across ladies who lose all common sense in the name of ‘love’. I know, being in love is something else and especially if it is your first time. You are literally on cloud 9. Studies become unnecessary and no one else matters except the object of your fiery affection. Nevertheless, choose to remember your head during this time for it can make a huge difference between a broken heart and a happily ever after. Remember to respect yourself as a woman and don’t go sleeping over in his room thereby making yourself the object of mockery for every guy on the floor. Find decent places to meet your ‘love’ and let him respect you for your principles

 

  • Until he has come out to directly propose to you, don’t assume you are in a relationship just because he’s giving you lots of attention. Ladies, young men in the university often don’t know what they want at that time. So please, allow him to clearly and definitely propose before you assume the role of a girlfriend. Yes, it’s true, guys play with the feelings of ladies a lot. We can’t change this but we can be wiser by giving the necessary space and behaving as friends. Don’t call him incessantly, don’t make him your one and only thereby blocking off potential suitors. Learn how to treat male friends as friends and if you are not sure, get clarification from him.

 

  • Even after you start dating/ courting, remember you are not married. Please don’t become his cook, washing machine, mother and above all, please don’t be engaging in sexual relations with Him. Contrary to what the movies, your friends, and Hollywood may say, sex is to be reserved for marriage. No one can give you a good testimony of how sex before marriage has helped her later in life. God in His infinite wisdom warns us to flee ‘sexual immorality’. Don’t you think God knows better than your girlfriends? A man will respect the skin off you if you can maintain your virginity to the end. He will trust you and you will hold yourself with pride. Please don’t throw away this God-given glory to any man in the name of desire or fitting in. In all your doings, hold on to your virginity at all costs.

Paul said, ‘Let the young men…treat young women as sisters, with all purity’. (1 Timothy 5: 2) As long as you are dating and not married, let purity, integrity, and self-respect be your mantra. This way, if the relationship doesn’t work out, you can walk away with your godliness and reputation intact. And if it does, you will be better respected.

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Afia Bobia Amanfo is the co-founder of Studentshubgh. She is a committed Christian and also passionate about education and alleviating poverty. She is currently studying for an MSc in International trade in Paris. Her desire is to help create opportunities for young people in rural areas. She loves to write on Christian growth, academics, and career

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