It’s February and love is in the air. Over the years, Valentine’s Day has become synonymous with proposals, romantic nights and sex. This month, we will be answering common questions young people have about sex, dating etc. Send us a message if you have any questions.
Question 1: All my friends are having sex. Why should I wait?
Answer: Believe it or not, this is not true and most of the time those friends who share stories of ‘their exploits’ have not engaged in sex yet. They are just sharing stories. A recent study shows that two thirds of young people who have had sex wish they had waited. Don’t feel pressured by your friends or classmates to lose that sacred gift of innocence and virginity and above all dishonour God. You are not alone. Every female friend I know personally has waited until marriage before having sex.
Question 2: Why do I Have Such Strong Sexual Feelings if Pre-Marital Sex is Wrong?
Answer: Your attraction to someone of the opposite sex is a natural gift from God. This attraction will help you in choosing your life partner and later in your sex life. Having the urge doesn’t mean you should give in to it. We have various urges but God has given us the gift of self-control so we don’t slap people because we are angry or eat every time and anywhere we feel hungry. There’s a time and place for everything. The time and place for sex is in marriage. God will give you the grace to wait
Question 3: What steps can I take to save sex for marriage?
Answer: The first step in saving sex for marriage is making a personal commitment to yourself, your parents, and to God to wait until marriage. Choose friends who share your values and who will help you to stand. Also, avoid being caught in a compromising situation (such as home alone without adult supervision, in a parked car, etc…). Remember that sex is progressive. Kissing can lead to touching, touching can lead to fondling, and fondling can lead to sex. Avoid watching movies and listening to music that stir up the desire for sex. And never forget, saving sex for marriage is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your future spouse.
Question 4: I have already had sex but want to stop. What should I do?
Answer: If you’ve already had sex and regret that decision, the first step is to stop having sex and begin with a renewed commitment to purity. Your past does not have to determine your future. Purity can begin today. Second, ask yourself some tough questions: Why did I start having sex? Was I pressured into it? Was I looking for love and thought sex would fill that void? Was I merely curious? God does not offer partial forgiveness, or conditional forgiveness, but total forgiveness. God loves you and desires that you experience the most fulfilling sex, love, and marriage relationship possible. To experience God’s best you must move forward today – regardless of your past – by making a commitment to save sex until marriage. I promise you, it is well worth the wait!